I prayed that she will accept me. I know of such a sister who would be willing to speak to you. She doesn't want him to marry again. Yet their defense is rooted in religion. The husbands are very much the guilty party.
In 50 years time the number of women more than men will increase exponentially. Whether the woman is the first or second wife, the duty and responsibility decreed on her by Allah Subhanah is that she be a source of comfort and happiness for her husband, so much so that the Messenger of Allah saws said that if the woman dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Paradise! Therefore it seems few marriages survive. The christians have a long history of not respected their own religion, what to talk about others. Marry of women you like other than the orphans in twos, in threes, or in fours but if you fear that you may not maintain equitty then one woman only! If he loved some more than others, this was evident by the character of the other brothers. I like to have intellectual conversations and keep up on current events and world news.
I try to do all I can to meet his needs — home cooked meals, physical intimacy, emotional support…so the topic literally enrages me. My guess is that they moved on to another town. As long as the husband acts according to the rules mashaAllah he and his family will be rewarded. I learned a lot from my husband and I stop doing all haram. My marriage is tolerated by my other children I have 4 , another one of which will not speak to my husband and at one point I was told by my child to choose between him and my grandchild or my husband. That polygyny is alive and well in this day and age is a disgrace.
Just read the story behind Surat At-Tahreem. So not very woman is the same and I have been married for many years and have always been against a second wife until Allah has changed me. I dont have contact with many. Email us at or call 0207 782 4368. A sinful word in my opinion.
The key is the ability to be equal. I am sick to death of reading on some islamic sites that the husband does not need permission of the first wife- yes true but what does common decency, morality and ethics say about how you should treat the most important person in your life — what the Quran describes as your garment? For this is indeed a great sin. It is allowed, so do not hate it or feel sick about it. I really enjoyed this interview. The good men adopt children or find other ways to fulfill this need.
Your husband, for whatever reason, wants to marry a second time. In this case, probably the first woman will have rights over his husband in not allowing him to marry again. Key goals learn Arabic, study Quraan and hadith and find myself in the lands of Islam where I can hear the athan called. We have good friendship together. The reasons why Islam permits polygamy: In Islam monogamy is essential and polygamy is exceptional.
The women are sharing everything- his time, money, love, bed, parenting duties, etc. As a matter of fact, after the World War I in Germany, there were four or six women for one man. While many took great umbrage to some of the issues the author brought up and to be honest, I also disagree on many points , I am concerned about the priorities of our concerns. Another restriction comes in 4:129 The verses before 4:2 and after 4:5 verse , are both about dealing with orphans. I am interested in history, and literature, and art, and all of what makes life and the world beautiful and I am looking for someone to share the beauty with me. I don't really know many girls.
This argument not is it only insulting towards first wives in polygamous relationships, but it also feeds into the fear and misunderstanding some women have with regards to polygamy. I know his family is important to him. The Deen before the Dunya. This funny thoughts come to me sometimes, smile , that he is a real man for being able to deal with 2 women, this makes me have a lot of respect for him. I am married to a wonderful muslim man.