The bigger ones help the little ones. So 3 came 2 years and 4 days after. Each pregnancy and birth can throw you so far off balance, out of your comfort zone, and stretch your personal growth as far as it can be stretched that it takes 3 years to get back in balance and ready mentally and emotionally to handle getting back in line to do it all over again. Just need to remember that ultimately God is te one who opens the womb and children are always a blessing from Him! My third came 3 years later and my fourth 3 years after that. Growing up it was a large age difference, but I always loved having an older sister. Three years apart was good for us because my daughter was potty trained, out of the crib, feeding herself, dressing herself mostly and generally out of that baby phase.
This post makes so much sense to me. The moms were just overwhelmed. I wanted a four year gap between kids but as my first approached his 3rd birthday, I found out my body had a lot of healing to do before getting pregnant again. I have a brother 17 months younger and 7 years younger. My children are 3 years and 3 days apart. I can set up an activity for her, start a movie, or give her the tablet to play her games and I don't have to worry about her getting into anything because she's old enough to know what she's allowed to do. I still knew that I wanted more than 2 but when the time game to think about having another if there wasÂ going to be 2 year age gap I completely freaked out.
The spacing with all of our children was intentional. Their older child will be a senior in college this year and their second child will be a senior in high school. I had intended for them to be a little closer, but I had a few miscarriages between them. Honestly, I had no idea that a sibling age gap was an even issue that people feel like they need to comment. I think I would have really struggled with energy and patience having a toddler and a baby, and then a preschooler and a toddler, at the same time.
Which turned out great since our youngest was born with a cleft lip and palate. And who knows when it will be over. There will be times of exhaustion and frustration, but thats just one of the many perks of motherhood. I read articles about which is the bestÂ age difference for siblings. We elected to wait 4 years between pregnancies for many of the same reasons you listed, and more.
You might be able to get them to potty train at the same time. I kept having plugged ducts which lowered my milk more. This also would also make sure that the goodwill at work remains on the positive side. I want to space my third child closer to 3 years We are also on the 3 year plan. Just with the delivery of our second baby, our insurance coverage was the same but covered less and we had a hefty bill at the end.
Having kids five years apart is equal parts humbling gratitude, teeth-gritting frustration and total delight. It soon became a blessing however. If it were me, I would try to spend some time healing and getting your body ready before trying again. I wonder if God had followed my plans of having them closer together if it would have been better…or worse. I told the elder when her sister was born that she was going to be the best big sister ever. In any other pairing, they alternately get along well and squabble. I did try to breastfeed throughout pregnancy, but it became very painful about halfway through, and my daughter was starting to ease up on it anyway, not really wanting much anymore.
I had never heard of this concept before but it sure makes a lot of sense! Its mostly pros for them. And get a bike trailer! But in all, life has been great having the boys close in age. I had no intention of putting a five-year gap between my children. I think it was because of where we were with our lives and such. Child spacing is a hot topic and one that there are many pros and cons for each spacing.
Children are just a lot of work period. How far apart should you space your children? Ironically my kids are so different from each other that my high-needs son still requires more intense parenting than my 2. You could, as did, discuss the various technicalities of this question. I love the age difference, even though it was tough at times when they were toddlers. We love each other so much. But I do agree, new life at any time is always a blessing. All three of us are still close, though my sister and I are definitely closer.