Old enough to go to jail. First cousins share the same grandparents. This is the place to unload that baggage that's been weighing you down for days, weeks, months, or years. You can have a healthy relationship with your sister and your parents if you face the consequences of your actions now and give the people you have hurt time to heal. With this I would please like to ask for strong duaas to make me less emotional reading other people's stories I get upset I want to be strong I don't want to be weak I really do hope my post has help. And, in the course of time it bestowed on me that I was molested and almost-raped for around ten years of my life.
But it would mean something to me if my brother apologized and admitted, at least to me, that he did it. At least I would have something concrete to work with. I don't see how its right to forgive myself. There is a statute of limitations for some wrongs, after which you can't be prosecuted, but even if that applies, you aren't past the minimum statute I've ever heard of, which is 7 years. We'd watch each other, or we'd pretend that our Barbie's were having sex with each other, or got kidnapped by a bad guy and were getting raped. He could have received treatment and assistance.
But as much as we as a society would like to control such activity, and as much as we try - we can't control all people all the time. That is how the rapes that happened when I was 8 started. Doing so is a bannable offense! Do not wait any longer. After we played, he would make me lie down on my back and lift my frock. Step carefully as there are two different issues: 1 He could still be an abuser. I guess I just blew this off as him being drunk and stupid.
That those checkups were nothing but a blind game of trust; that those ice-creams were nothing but a bribe which helped me get molested every night. I have two older brothers. Replaying that night over and over again. I have yet to tell anyone and I think this secret will stay with me until the day I die. There were also times where he forces himself in my mouth, I can still remember the smell. And there are a lot of grey-areas.
Thank God he would come during the day, but she was very young as well. We treat ourselves like we supposed to be the same forever, but we always changing. I can almost guarantee this caused no psychological issues for that woman's brother. It's been a very long time since it's happened, but every time I think about it, I still need to immediately think of something else. I think my cousin still deserves to know but my parents who got increasing annoyed with the topic and my uncle and aunt think she's still too young but wouldn't care either way. That night everyone went to sleep, or what I thought.
Playing doctor is not abuse, I agree with Brenda, when you feel you can't say no and guilt comes in then it is. It shows you have grown and matured. That doesn't mean we are forever terrible people. How do I know that he realizes his mistakes? I'm stuck with that too. Selfish fear is the only thing stopping me, I admit that i don't want to face the consequences, and that is what is stopping me.
He said that one time he had given me a bath when I was little without our grandmother or anyone there. I would greatly appreciate your two cents, this has been eating away at me for a decade. I know it's like opening up a can of worms, but you need to begin somewhere right? He closed the door and proceeded to molest me. They seemed to brush it off. Who molested her My cousin. I can barely remember the homework assignment I read yesterday.
One brave mother posted her story online. Also, you don't take the easy way out by suffering like this. Go see a therapist, read, meditate, cry, win trust, follow your dreams, get that degree if you wanna, apply yourself 130% to anything you do. I am so sorry if this utterly disturbs anyone, especially others who put a story on this site. Yeah, in general it's great to have someone you can share everything with, but this concept stops short of trauma details. I urge you seek out some form of counselling to help you sort through the emotions these memories now stir in you. You have betrayed her trust and it would not be fair to her to be alone with you.
I was molested from the time I was 4-5 until I was 14-15 with simple touching escalating into full on intercourse. If you do that, you aren't a terrible person. And while I sit here and deal daily with feelings worthless and damaged and half crazy, he gets to move on with his life and get married, have a family, have a great job. Get them out of your mind. And i was in the same shoes as his sister and I know the difference between a pedophile and a kid being a complete dumbass and feeling incredible guilt for it.
But you know it, and it's eating you alive. But I didn't tell anyone because I mean. His hand went in my underwear and he fingered me. Lastly, there is nothing to be ashamed of about what you have told here. They want me to forgive myself but I can't seem to convince myself that that is right. Please don't keep this to yourself, find someone to talk to. Our game had to be our little secret because if someone found out, then they would take him away from me.