Like a dog descending on a bowlful of food, I arrive ready to get shit done and do not want anything getting in my way. Remember, the staff at your gym is there to assist you. If you're looking for a girl for a relationship not just a roll in the hay , then be yourself. It's like being indirect since you're talking about something relevant and appropriate, but at the same time it's direct enough to give her the hint. If a girl rejects you, she is destroying your ego, since you base all self worth on external validation, and a rejection by another person confirms your worthlessness. There are the places that come to mind immediately, like that seedy sports bar you've been going to forever and your local hip bookstore. It needs to just become a normal thing you do like eating, shytting and breathing.
I also go to a mixed one which I don't feel the same, I feel like guys are judging me like oh I am fat or something. And if you wait too long it will just become awkward. If you need to use the gym as a primary source to meet chicks you're doing it all wrong. I can say this with absolute confidence. And don't say something lude like grabbing her ass, because I won't do it, and I won't go for a girl that's a slut. But even now, I talk to girls and guys in the gym all the time. Given, the odds are never in my favor at gym but, like every good hunter or pussy poacher, I persist.
But unwanted attention at the gym can really ruin your workout. How do you guys feel about it? If your tone and smile are not creepy chances are she will call you for lunch cause its expectedly goibg to be free. Like others, I wouldn't want my wife working out at my gym she does, just at other time because the gym is my sanctuary. I'm a sucker for blondes. The purpose of the opener is only to start a conversation, that's it. Please leave me alone so I can finish my workout.
If you offend her because she wants to be left alone you will find out when she says no. Plus it doesn't involve much thinking or prep. And three-fourths of people would rather meet someone there than at a bar. If you like praise them for the workout but a friendly way it could be a start. It's kinda uncomfortable for women to talk to strangers at the gym. .
This is a tough one because, while I know plenty of women may not, I hate being hit on at the gym. This is not the time she wants to be noticed. She's not gonna remember the line opener, cause it's not important! I go to an all women's gym and I feel very comfortable there! However, I don't want to be that creepy guy. Act like something you aren't, you'll attract the wrong girl for the wrong reasons. If anything say what's up and continue what you came their for in the first place. Some likes it some don't. Try not to be an overthinker brah.
Plus it doesn't involve much thinking or prep. Which leads me to believe they found me attractive. There was a girl I thought was really cute at this one gym I used to lift at a while back, and from what I could tell we were exchanging some amount of eye contact, though we had only worked out at the same time like 3 times so idk sample size issues. Give it another hundred years and maybe we'll be as blase about objectification as most men seem to be. Don't equate that to a do not disturb sign. I don't want to scare the girl. If you're an Alpha, you don't need to show it.
In general, I find it hard to hit on girls at the gym because I am there to workout and so are they. Step 1: Assemble a cute workout outfit. If she's interested go over to her when she's resting don't want to interrupt those sets nomsayin? If you're not, well, they'll know that too. After a few minutes of body banter, I thanked him for the help and threw my headphones back on. However, I don't want to be that creepy guy. Do you really want to date a chick that works out at the same gym you do? What I mean by smooth is having a reason to approach, like asking her about fitness if you're both at the gym like mentioned before, that way you feel like you have an excuse to talk to her and feel less burdened by the approach.
So you could try that. She'll reply with the 'oh ye definitely i take it you're here a lot too you look in good shape'. Two outcomes: 1 You strike up conversation that potentially leads somewhere, preferably the bedroom in your case. My one friend says that she constantly gets hit on at the gym and that it's the worst. So it's best to always keep your eyes and ears open -- especially in male-heavy environments.
Don't: Offer a spot, gawk, or get too far off topic of the gym if you somehow end up talking to them for whatever reason. On the other hand, if she is into it she says yes. Have a presence thats noticeable but not arrogant. Wait for the green light. Report any physical harassment to the proper authorities. I love to work out, and am highly solitary when I do so.
This part is a little trickier because it just makes me more nervous for one thing. Speak up and tell them that you have a problem. Although there are a few girls in the gym looking to do just that, those girls aren't worth your time. All this time I've been frustrated at my loneliness while others have their arm wrapped around a beautiful girl. Thanks again man, you've opened up my eyes to the path of approaching women. Unlike the gym, getting hit on is expected there. An embarrassing, forgone conclusion seems to loom large for him.