I loved that woman too. I was such a nice guy that I wifed the first girl I fucked simply because I knocked her up. Its hard to nuture a person's growth esp when the growth seems to take them away from you but i really like what you say about they can be happy without you and wouldn't want to be miserable with you. Nothing crazy with her yet thankfully. I learned a lot from my first marriage, like how to communicate better especially.
Note that passwords are case-sensitive. I was bold enough to ask anything. Now, of course, I'm aware that that's not exactly the best way to approach marriage, and I have the opposite situation of Dazed. If you fight a lot before you get married, it will get worse after. I think this mindset of mine developed the way it did from watching many of my own friends and acquaintances get married right out of college. Here are 15 painfully honest truths husbands on Reddit say are the biggest regrets they have about ever getting married to their wives.
I am proud to have given her all the happiness she deserved. A reminder that your email address on your account must be valid and working to receive the reset request. Heck, some already moved onto their second marriage! My wife used to tell me about cute guys who would flirt with her. I have 2 great kids, a nice house, and I can basically do what I want. Read the prerequisites all the nightmare stories on Reddit, noticed wife wasn't as receptive to me, she was nowhere near as wet anymore and I finally understood why. Married now to my best friend.
Plus, I've learned to always speak to her as though it's possibly the last words I'll ever speak to her. I can say that I have reached the point that I wondered why I married my wife, but at the same time, I still wanted her as a friend and confidant. I don't bother where she is going or whom she is meeting. Men like me are losers. That is the sweetest thing! And when I realized that, that was when I knew I wanted to marry him. I ask her to lie with me on our roof and watch the night sky. But others were more complex.
Many of the guys on here were not red or if they were, didn't understand it at all and turned more blue poor leaders etc. These are the questions that occurred to me when I read his story… How are your children affected by your marriage? We always work out a solution, tell each other how we feel and respect each other. I carried this shit trait into my first marriage and it helped to hasten its implosion. Sometimes the answer is yes, sometimes the answer is no. But on balance, my life for the past 30 years or so would probably suck if she hadn't been an integral part of it.
Also I had this thought I will keep my wife very happy too. That led to often lets just say sub optimal choices in women or timing or both - basically fucked it up. Even today, in 7 years, she saw me in my work uniform twice and my dress whites once. When my friends show me their profiles and the messages they get, I feel so happy that I met my match young and never had to write an about me profile. If you stick together through those times, it is worth it. I'm happy with the arrangement.
I find myself short tempered now at times, tired, feeling overwhelmed, scared, etc at times. It just felt like we were building a foundation together at a very crucial time in our lives. And I did it 15 years ago at almost 20 years old. Some even mentioned that we should commit suicide and when I saw that even women were looking down on us I was shattered. Having said that, I'm currently in a messy situation which sometimes makes me think it would have been better to not have got married when I did, perhaps because my spouse and I ended up where we are. At this point in life and for most of my marriage, I can say that I am happy about both. If you enter a relationship feeling incomplete and expecting to become complete simply by being in it, expecting to get a lot of goodies without giving anything in return, you will end up feeling resentful and disappointed.
Even then, at least all I wanted was to be loved. I always thought I wanted the typical life of marriage,kids,house, etc. That said, I think marriage sucks and I was a lot happier when I was single. I got a very nice job with enormous salary. She's a good women, works full time, 3 kids no shit tests to speak of all comfort tests, daddy issues even with all this knowing what I know now I wouldn't do it again.
I won't claim every single moment has been sunshine and rainbow farts but the vast majority of them have been. . The title may contain two, short, necessary context sentences. Now I consider my marriage to be pretty good. I always thought I wanted the typical life of marriage,kids,house, etc.
She passed away few months back. Men out there, do you regret getting married or are you happy you did? So what the hell is all the fuss about? My wife does not speak English too well, but when we first met it was love at first sight. No text is allowed in the textbox. I wanted someone whose I was the first love. Second time around I had done a bunch of self reflection, reading and work on myself. We met on a dating site. During these times, we can be unhappy, but commitment is what brings us through together.